Is there any benefit in male vir
ginity?
Sir, I have a question to ask you about male
virginity. I have observed that female virginity
is accorded more attention or better put, more
importance than that of males. We have heard
countless reasons why a female must
maintain and keep her virginity. Now my
question is, what does a boy, man, or guy
benefit from being chaste? Would your wife
appreciate it when you finally tie the knot?
Needless to say I am one of them. Thanks.
My RESPONSE:
Male virginity, I love this. I was a twenty-
seven-year-old virgin when I got married. My
wife was also a virgin. Does virginity, whether
male or female, accord benefits? Yes. Let me
share one. On my wedding night, I had sex for
the first time. It was November 4, 2000. That
night, I had nothing to compare the experience
with. I couldn't say it was better than sex with
Ngozi, or the same as sex with Ruth, or any
other lady in the world. No conflict existed in
my mind. My wife couldn’t compare me with
some dude or playboy.
That night with Tonye, my one and only wife,
was great sex not better sex and I didn’t have
to compare our sex life with various
pornography styles. This is the beauty of
virginity––a clean heart and a clean mind. We
are having even better sex after eighteen years
of practise with one another and our bed, by
God’s grace, remains undefiled. ( Yes! Eighteen
years anniversary celebration is a few days
time!!!)
My brother, There was no intruder into our
temples before we consummated our marriage,
and there has been none ever since. Like
Adam and Eve, we have been naked and not
ashamed.
This does not mean I didn't have my struggles
with sex. I got born again at sixteen, attended
university of Benin, was a leader on campus,
and I had my fair share of exposures to very
fine babes (in and out of church fellowships).
I had narrow escapes and was only saved by
grace and mercies of God. I struggled with
masturbation, until Christ gave me victory. I
battled with lust and thoughts of evil. I
confronted fatal attractions and sometimes, I
lost some battles.
Nevertheless, Christ gave me victory. He
taught me the principles of sexual purity. I
learnt the path and the power of God. Above
all, I learnt, "NEVER TEMPT TEMPTATION." I
have documented all these and more, in my
book, SEXUAL PURITY, IS IT STILL POSSIBLE,
and my courtship novel, BROKEN BONES.
But hear me, If guys are supposed to be sex
experts on their wedding nights, who would
they have practised with? If ladies are
supposed to be virgins on their wedding
nights, who gave practice sessions to the
guys? If guys seek to marry only virgins, who
will marry the ladies they had practised with
earlier? The answers to these questions
should guide the way we relate with each
other. Therefore, young guy, please do not
leave virginity to the ladies alone. Please,
defend and keep your virginity.
Today, I give you a charge. Rise up to be a
true man. Defend "our little" sister around you.
Don't take advantage of her. If she seduces
you, be a Joseph. If she bathes naked, tell her
your name is not David. If she allures you like
Delilah, tell her that a greater than Samson
lives in you. My friend, no more excuses. Our
ladies are tired of broken men with empty
trousers!
Mr. Tekena Ikoko
CEO Single but not Stupid
Sir, I have a question to ask you about male
virginity. I have observed that female virginity
is accorded more attention or better put, more
importance than that of males. We have heard
countless reasons why a female must
maintain and keep her virginity. Now my
question is, what does a boy, man, or guy
benefit from being chaste? Would your wife
appreciate it when you finally tie the knot?
Needless to say I am one of them. Thanks.
My RESPONSE:
Male virginity, I love this. I was a twenty-
seven-year-old virgin when I got married. My
wife was also a virgin. Does virginity, whether
male or female, accord benefits? Yes. Let me
share one. On my wedding night, I had sex for
the first time. It was November 4, 2000. That
night, I had nothing to compare the experience
with. I couldn't say it was better than sex with
Ngozi, or the same as sex with Ruth, or any
other lady in the world. No conflict existed in
my mind. My wife couldn’t compare me with
some dude or playboy.
That night with Tonye, my one and only wife,
was great sex not better sex and I didn’t have
to compare our sex life with various
pornography styles. This is the beauty of
virginity––a clean heart and a clean mind. We
are having even better sex after eighteen years
of practise with one another and our bed, by
God’s grace, remains undefiled. ( Yes! Eighteen
years anniversary celebration is a few days
time!!!)
My brother, There was no intruder into our
temples before we consummated our marriage,
and there has been none ever since. Like
Adam and Eve, we have been naked and not
ashamed.
This does not mean I didn't have my struggles
with sex. I got born again at sixteen, attended
university of Benin, was a leader on campus,
and I had my fair share of exposures to very
fine babes (in and out of church fellowships).
I had narrow escapes and was only saved by
grace and mercies of God. I struggled with
masturbation, until Christ gave me victory. I
battled with lust and thoughts of evil. I
confronted fatal attractions and sometimes, I
lost some battles.
Nevertheless, Christ gave me victory. He
taught me the principles of sexual purity. I
learnt the path and the power of God. Above
all, I learnt, "NEVER TEMPT TEMPTATION." I
have documented all these and more, in my
book, SEXUAL PURITY, IS IT STILL POSSIBLE,
and my courtship novel, BROKEN BONES.
But hear me, If guys are supposed to be sex
experts on their wedding nights, who would
they have practised with? If ladies are
supposed to be virgins on their wedding
nights, who gave practice sessions to the
guys? If guys seek to marry only virgins, who
will marry the ladies they had practised with
earlier? The answers to these questions
should guide the way we relate with each
other. Therefore, young guy, please do not
leave virginity to the ladies alone. Please,
defend and keep your virginity.
Today, I give you a charge. Rise up to be a
true man. Defend "our little" sister around you.
Don't take advantage of her. If she seduces
you, be a Joseph. If she bathes naked, tell her
your name is not David. If she allures you like
Delilah, tell her that a greater than Samson
lives in you. My friend, no more excuses. Our
ladies are tired of broken men with empty
trousers!
Mr. Tekena Ikoko
CEO Single but not Stupid
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